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Just a tad...

This week has been a bit of  a toughy.. my son is regressing in many areas.


Toilet training to start with.. lots of wet undies and odd outfits as a result, his speech is also not progressing, he has stopped listening to us (I don't mean respecting us as he is being lovely but more just attentiveness) and he has a severe lack of patience which doesn't result in tantrums but more emotional little faces and often tears of what seems like genuine sadness..

I have the mother guilts.. is it me? on the days I have the kids home I often still have to put a large amount of work hours in and always have to do the cleaning and washing etc as the days I don't have them I am at my computer working ALL day so I worry it is my lack of one on one time with him that is causing this?.. what to do.. well I plan to organise my days so I work even more on the days I don't have them, include him in my cleaning etc so its a game and then make sure the rest of the time is all about him and his sister..

I have started and this week I am grateful I designed this up from something I saw on Pinterest as it will find me hours for sure and I am grateful my web boys and I migrated to a new newsletter template.. it has reduced my creation time dramatically.. oh so happy :)

I am ever so grateful I have decided to find some time.. its all about creating the time.....

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  1. Oh Tessa,
    You sound so stressed and worried, I feel for you.
    Mother guilt only chews you up and spits you out feeling worse! Give yourself a break sweetie. Time management is a great way of helping you create more opportunities to spend with K and H but don't be hard on yourself.
    Speech difficulties will be causing him lots of frustration and anxiety and that in itself may explain everything you're describing. My Abbey had speech issues and it definitely makes it harder for them to process information and stresses them to the max because they can't communicate the way they want to.
    I assume you've seen someone to help with the speech??

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    1. I am Libby and I would love to chat.. we used to go to speech therapy and are now booked back in for late September but.. 100% love to chat esp as you know a lot of other people that could help the cause x

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  2. PS if you want to chat about our experience with A I'm always available:)

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  3. Hi Tessa, very similar scenario here. I really do struggle with actual one-on-one playtime on the floor. So much pressure on us mums, isn't there. I've been spending time in the garden with them, getting them helping me build the vegetable beds, in the kitchen rolling out dough etc so the cooking and gardening still get done, and the guilt doesn't haunt me so much. It is definitely a lack of attention and time spent together doing fun things that makes things worse here. I like your little design... I say as the kitchen is still a mess!

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    1. Its a plan. I have done lots of my desktop work for Monday over the weekend so we will see how I manage today x

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  4. sometimes it is just hard! If this is what you are thinking about spending time with your son maybe there s a way to dedicate a specific time block that he knows will be his. I often find with my little miss that she knows when is her time and when it is mummy doing other things time. Sometimes it is all just trial and error too. But hang in there. Potty training .... Cringing the thought of having to embark on this one ! x

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    1. Thats a great idea.. thanks Tahlia.. I will start thinking about "special time".. Girls are easy to Potty Train.. don't be nervous and they just do it when they are ready :)

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  5. I have often said that I think it is impossible to do both jobs at the same time. Really, impossible. I hope you find your balance, Tessa. We can discuss!!! x

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