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A Fading Friend ..


I have changed so much since I left the UK. I used to be able to hang out with anyone, I could listen to any old crap and appear engaged, negativity I could brush it off with ease...

I spent over 10 years modelling in London and travelling to different countries where things, were not as the TV makes out, but did have a lot of 'falseness' and 'pretence' surrounding many of the relationships you briefly had whilst working with clients and photographers.

I can't say if it is Australia that has changed me. Maybe just lack of time?. Quite likely able to attribute it a huge chunk to my gorgeous husband but whatever the reason I have no tolerance for negativity. I can listen to my friends who need help and are in a negative space but people that just generally have a glass half empty approach to life or like to moan I just simply cannot be around.

This has meant that as I have got older and especially after I had the kids I have less girlfriends but value the friendships of the ones I do 10 fold.

The thing is I am a workaholic, I mean I love my work and could essentially work 24 hrs a day and still not have enough time so that turns me into a workaholic of sorts and unless someone forces me to meet up (*Thank you Sonia for making me have lunch *Kate our catch ups restore my soul *Jacqui you so get that I need the outlet and always call at the right time) and well not many do..

I message when I get to breaking point and am desperate to catch up but they are always busy catching up with others and then it just seems like months pass. Damn Facebook shows me them out having fun with others and I feel like if I keep going like this my poor hubby is going to be my only mate left!!

I truly do believe everything happens for a reason and I can really see some amazing new women in my life of late that I know will be around for a long time to come but I feel like I am a Fading Friend and surely that is not  a good thing?

Has life's fast pace changed your friendships? Have you ever felt you were a Fading Friend?
Am I just being a paranoid weirdo?

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  1. I hear you. But I bet your friends don't see you as a fading friend.

    I think we all 'audit' our friendships, not through malice or wanton neglect, but because we move on and grow. And you are quite wise to avoid serial 'glass half full' people.

    But on the up-side, you do have a lovely Friday spin-class buddy! :)

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  2. I meant, 'glass half EMPTY' people.....see, I need my cup of tea for my brain to function. And I have a blog post to write tonight. haha!

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  3. This rings home with me 200%. There's two weirdo's out there now ;)

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  4. This rings home with me 200%. There are two weirdo's out there now ;)

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  5. Oh Tessa, don't worry! Just do what you can do. Sometimes things get on top of us (I'm hearing you...) things have a way of working out :) Annie x

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    1. I hope so Annie.. and yes I bet you do.. you have been super busy!

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  6. You are so not a fading friend, in fact to me you are the complete opposite. You are this bright gorgeous soul that brings a hell of a lot of sunshine into my life and I am so blessed to call you my friend. Just remember that people in your life will come and go for a reason.... trust the universe gorgeous girl and trust that gut instinct of yours xx

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    1. I do, I still do I just have certain people I desperately don't want too loose!!.. you madam are 'our' shining star.. Kate and I that is :)

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  7. Oh I hear you! Some of my best friends at this point in my life are online and I've never met them. An amazing group of Aussie blogging mums. It is the best community and can bring me to tears with the things that we do for one another even when divided by so many km!
    Thanks for sharing this. The balance gets harder as our commitments to what is closest to us grows.

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    1. It does doesn't it.. and I am happy to adapt.. I just don't want to have any regrets or loose those I love along the way x

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