Mother Guilt about me working? Nah thats not it.. I have bypassed that one long ago and am quite content that I am more than present in my kids lives and having DTLL has made me a better wife, mother and person..
So what is worse than mother guilt? daughter friggin' guilt!. My parents have moved here from the other side of the world and after nearly a year here I know they still pang for the UK.
Now being at retirement age was clearly never going to make it easy as it is a huge change for anyone but my parents were not retired, they were still working (my Dad was Project Manager for Lend Lease at The London Olypmics.. pretty important and yes I am proud) so hanging out together each day is a tad boring for them!!.
Do I feel guilty for that? Well a little but life would have been the same in the UK in a few years so not so much..
My guilt comes more from what I had assumed and where it now leaves us..
I had assumed they would arrive here, love Australia as we all do and then immerse themselves into my family by spending time with the Grandchildren and enjoy a quieter life.
My vision was just that and that they would have the kids for sleepovers, afternoon teas and then when they grew much older we would all move further up the beaches and all live on the same property just with them in their own self contained granny flat..
Does that sound idiotic? Was I foolish?
So now I have daughter guilt that my parents are not happy AND mother guilt as if they did go back to the UK my children would be devastated.. They refer to them daily, Gaga and Papa are part of their little lives and I just want to work out how to make them ALL happy.
Are you ex pats in Aus? Did you bring your folks here? Are they settled?