In the last few years I have had very little time for my friends and the true ones have stuck by me and understood this, in fact they have almost welcomed it as they know it is nothing to do with them and all to do with building a business from scratch on my own.
I saw a post from a friend who lives in LA who is one of those people I don't even see who is a connection via family but totally fills my soul with his attitude and make me a better person.. this is him..
He spoke of how he has made a concious effort to compliment people
'And no, I'm not just talking about good looking women. I'm talking about normal, average, everyday people who no doubt have one unique quality, that if you take the time to notice, isn't normal & average & you don't see everyday'
He is not being fake. Nor am I trying to simply 'win somebody over' as he has nothing to gain or receive in doing so. So why bother? Well... 'A compliment makes people feel good about themselves and when the people around me feel good, guess what? I feel good too'. I call that selfish for a higher good :)
I digress.. his story was..
'So this afternoon I didn't hesitate to tell an old woman, a stranger who was walking with a cane and smiling ear to ear, that she was beautiful and had an incredible smile. She beamed and told me that she was in fact 88 years young and that her secret was "to always pretend nothing is wrong with her."
That phrase got me thinking.
Although she was beaming from our exchange, I realised she was one of the rare people that actually didn't need the admiration in the first place. That's because she was already complimenting herself on a much deeper level by constantly reassuring herself - even to the point of delusion - that she was perfect and young and healthy and beautiful. It was no coincidence that she looked so genuinely beautiful at 88: She worked very hard for it. Not in the gym, but in the mind'
I had to share this with you as it is a wonderful reminder - that there's great power in being grateful and in loving yourself. Not just loving how you look when you're looking spesh, but loving YOU.. your flaws, your wrinkles, your mistakes, your life & even your age.
Your body's healing power & your minds potential for change is is fuelled by belief ( I have a ring I wear daily saying 'It just takes Trust'.
A belief is nothing more than a thought you keep having.
Thai finished saying
'So be delusional. Love yourself. Compliment the people around you. Even if they're strangers. Love is the most selfish thing you can do...'
I have been doing it for a while but Thai reminded me to do it more and now I hope I can promote you to do so too..
Do you pay people compliments? Do you even try to love yourself?