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Finding Happiness



In the last few years I have had very little time for my friends and the true ones have stuck by me and understood this, in fact they have almost welcomed it as they know it is nothing to do with them and all to do with building a business from scratch on my own.

I saw a post from a friend who lives in LA who is one of those people I don't even see who is a connection via family but totally fills my soul with his attitude and make me a better person.. this is him..

He spoke of how he has made a concious effort to compliment people

'And no, I'm not just talking about good looking women. I'm talking about normal, average, everyday people who no doubt have one unique quality, that if you take the time to notice, isn't normal & average & you don't see everyday'

He is not being fake. Nor am I trying to simply 'win somebody over' as he has nothing to gain or receive in doing so. So why bother? Well... 'A compliment makes people feel good about themselves and when the people around me feel good, guess what? I feel good too'. I call that selfish for a higher good :)

I digress.. his story was..

'So this afternoon I didn't hesitate to tell an old woman, a stranger who was walking with a cane and smiling ear to ear, that she was beautiful and had an incredible smile. She beamed and told me that she was in fact 88 years young and that her secret was "to always pretend nothing is wrong with her."

That phrase got me thinking.

Although she was beaming from our exchange, I realised she was one of the rare people that actually didn't need the admiration in the first place. That's because she was already complimenting herself on a much deeper level by constantly reassuring herself - even to the point of delusion - that she was perfect and young and healthy and beautiful. It was no coincidence that she looked so genuinely beautiful at 88: She worked very hard for it. Not in the gym, but in the mind'

I had to share this with you as it is a wonderful reminder - that there's great power in being grateful and in loving yourself. Not just loving how you look when you're looking spesh, but loving YOU.. your flaws, your wrinkles, your mistakes, your life & even your age.

Your body's healing power & your minds potential for change is is fuelled by belief ( I have a ring I wear daily saying 'It just takes Trust'.

A belief is nothing more than a thought you keep having.

Thai finished saying

'So be delusional. Love yourself. Compliment the people around you. Even if they're strangers. Love is the most selfish thing you can do...'

I have been doing it for a while but Thai reminded me to do it more and now I hope I can promote you to do so too..

Do you pay people compliments? Do you even try to love yourself?

76 comments

  1. I love this post Tessa. We, as a busy society, get so caught up in busyness and our own problems and everyday stresses that we forget the basic things, that in fact, make life better, easier and more beautiful. A simple compliment, a smile, a good attitude and a self-love approach! Thank you for the reminder!
    Claire x

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  2. Happiness is a mind-set to which you have control of. A smile is infectious & one of the prettiest accessory anyone cam have. x

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  3. Its so true Kim, I think it takes a lot of effort to control that mindset but is totally worth it x

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  4. My pleasure Claire.. we all need it often, me included :)

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  5. We love watering the veggie garden first thing in the morning, the kids love knowing the veggies will grow as they do!

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  6. Painting, drawing or crafting - anything arty is a great way to explore their creativity and keep them absorbed. The mess? Life's too short to worry!

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  7. I've become a grand mother ...so having our grand baby living with us and her family is the best thing in the whole wide world ..singing and skipping jo

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  8. Having breakfast in bed while watching a movie :)

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  9. Having a morning pj party just mucking about, having fun and forgetting the world outside

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  10. Start with lots of tickles and cuddles in bed. The kids get to dress themselves which means an amazing fashion parade for mum and dad!

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  11. A morning bike ride around our local lake, followed by coffee, baby chinos & cake at our local fish pond cafe! Bliss!

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  12. Cuddles in bed & then off to the park for a play & feed the ducks :)

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  13. Arts and crafts are always great, but if the weather is nice and the energy levels high, it is outside running about or plotting the new vegetable patch.

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  14. A double shot coffee for mamma, some porridge and cuddles for the others, then it's off to the park, the shops or the library, as long as it's fun it doesn't matter :).

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  15. A walk around the neighbourhood followed by a craft activity & tea :)

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  16. I cherish cuddles in bed with my little man and then getting out and enjoying the sunshine.

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  17. Snuggles and cuddles, wriggles and giggles, singing and spinning, reading and imagining. Basking in the loveliness of these little people who call me Mumma.

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  18. Lovely :) I am really going to make a concentrated effort to compliment as many people as I can, because I so love that feeling that receiving a random, unexpected compliment can give you. Thank you for sharing ( and the reminder) xx

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  19. Wow! Love this. So many times situations in my life and especially healing times it has come back to loving myself more. I suppose it's where it begins, how we grow and how we heal. A beautiful reminder. This will stay with me. Thank you xx

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  20. I am probably my biggest fan, so that's not a problem but I definitely don't compliment strangers enough. I am all for being grateful and loving myself and my life, and if I'm ever unhappy I try to change the situation.
    Sounds like you have a really great friend!

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  21. I like to think I lead a life of complete delusion. I'm a happy soul, I any case. What a nice fellow your friend is, Tessa. x

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  22. Playing in the park with kids after brekkie is always fun.

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  23. Yummy breakfast together then walking and playing in the sunshine at the local park :)

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  24. Discovering the treasures of nature together in the garden

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  25. sleeping in late with lots of cuddles!

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  26. I'm a big fan of the compliment and how you can noticeably see it add a spring to someone's step. Even my 9-month-old smiles from ear to ear when people tell her she is beautiful. Loving yourself is the harder part but if we can't love ourselves then how can we expect anyone else to love us?

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  27. Cooking up a big breakfast in the kitchen with the kids. Pancakes, berries, syrup, fresh juices... The Works! The more mess the better.

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  28. Oh I love to compliment people. I just wish they weren't so shocked when I do! People just don't expect a stranger to talk to them, let alone compliment them. They look confused! But I tell them again anyway.

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  29. So funny , me too I often have to repeat as they are so shocked the first time they don't even listen :)

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  30. Pleasure Jane, It costs nothing huh and you never know how amazing it will make someone feel x

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  31. I have become just like you in the last few years and I so wish I had done it earlier :)

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  32. You ARE that lady!!, you will look fab inside and out forever!

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  33. Thats it Sara, we can start with our kids each and every day :)

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  34. Waking my beauty up in the morning to huge smiles, followed by baking and play dates at home!

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  35. Breaky together, a few games and a play at the park before putting them down for a nap and a chance to enjoy a cuppa.

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  36. out for breakfast such a great start to the day

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  37. Sunday morns are my fav, pancakes @ home; followed by coffee & soccer with the kids. Always on the move with 3 kids.

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  38. Waking up refreshed to smiles and coos, cuddles while feeding, a tasty breakfast, and watching my little man splash in the bath!

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  39. Cuddled up in bed with the boys and their Dad reading a Richard Scarry book :)

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  40. A lazy morning in bed, with the hubby & the kids!

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  41. Making pancakes then heading to the ocean to look for mermaids >. <

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  42. YES! I'm a total complimenter. I'll compliment anyone at any time - even total strangers on the street. I figure, if I'm thinking a lovely thought about someone I should tell them because it just might make them happy. x

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  43. Snuggled up in bed telling them stories of when they were born. They never get tired of hearing it doesnt matter how old they are.

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  44. I am 5 months pregnant with my first little girl and can only imagine what my favourite things will be, squishes, kisses, cuddles, singing, LOVE. xx

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  45. Cuddles, giggles, and smiles in bed with my beautiful baby boy!

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  46. Our favourite is sunny Sundays in the front yard, cuppa teas and gardening in our big hats .. Perfection !! Xx

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  47. Our favourite morning is making pancakes and having a family breakfast with our boy and girl 2 and 4 years.

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  48. Visit grandma and grandpas farm! Feed the alpacas, collect chicken eggs, check veggie garden and then make pikelets!! :)

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  49. our favorite morning is a totally lazy one. No plans, no places to be, just enjoying each other's company.

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  50. My favourite part of the morning will be sunrise cuddles and precious moments with my baby when he's born in January

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  51. @ 35 weeks pregnant, I like sleep ins with my 2year old and lots of cuddles to help me get out of bed!

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  52. Snuggling in bed with my bubba boy then making pancakes yummy!

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  53. At 38weeks pregnant with my first, I love nothing better than laying in bed with my hands on my belly imagining finally meeting her!

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  54. As we are building and don't have a garden we often head to the park for a stroll and swing

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  55. Waking up to big beautiful happy smiles and cuddling in bed with me & daddy! Big love just there!

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  56. Waking up with family, love it!!

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  57. A walk along the water topped off with breakfast at a nice little cafe!

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  58. Awaiting twin boys to make pancake stacks for breakfast with! Eventually...

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  59. enjoying the morning sun at 7am at our usual 5KM parkrun with the pram and then coffee and brekky at our local kid friendly cafe!

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  60. making a tent and cuddling with them for 10 minutes before starting the day...

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  61. My kids are always so happy in the morning, I love to just hang out with them, have breakfast and play games!

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  62. Curled up in "mummy's bed" talking up their dreams the night before and the big adventures awaiting for us each day

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  63. I love to spend my morning cooking and eating pancakes with the kids

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  64. Pancakes and juice for brekky in our awesome teepee that the kids and I built together and then some serious tree climbing time!

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  65. Heading for a morning swim and picnic x

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  66. Rolling around in the sheets pretending we are sushi rolls!

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  67. This will be our 1st baby so we spend Saturday's talking about how good our life will be in future Saturday's to come :-)

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  68. Breakfast out and then going to the beach together.

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  69. I like to watch the grand kids play at Treasure Island indoor play centre or at The City Park

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  70. We don't have kids yet, but we do have fur babies, and our favourite morning activity is a good play in the park which I'm sure will follow through with the addition of kids! Oh and cuddles in bed :)

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  71. Taking the kids and dog down the beach for a walk,collecting shells,paddling feet and stopping for icecream on the way home.

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  72. To watch my 3yo son crawl around and giggle in our bed with my 11mo daughter - squeals of delight!

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