Yep all the re assuring type of conversations you want to have just before you move to another country with your kids.
And now I am here? I may just be muttering those same words back to myself at certain times, ok quite a few times, oh ok at least 3 or 4 times a day!.
So Sydney to San Francisco.. how did it happen and how is it going are now the 2 most common questions I hear every day, that would be assuming I can ignore the obvious ones of 'Mum, can I have XYZ?' from the kids like clockwork on the half hour, every hour of the day that they are within earshot.
So why did we move when you were so in love with where we lived?
Easy, why not?
I should be a little more honest and not proclaim such a fly by the seat of my pants attitude as this wasn't my answer straight off.
When Marcus asked me last Christmas would I be interested, willing and able to move to the U.S next year some time I immediately answered..
'Oh O.K' he said sheepishly, I thought you might be a little more open to the idea...
'What?.. I have 3 businesses here, the kids are happy, we just got a dog and we are remortgaging to put a pool in at the house'.
'Yeah, put it that way and it does sound a little stupid but I am just thinking about the future and where I can get with my career at LinkedIn in Sydney vs the U.S'
I won't bore you with how the next few months of random conversations panned out but suffice to say we discussed it more and I agreed I was being a tad ego driven with my head saying to me 'how can I walk away from a business I have put my heart and soul into?' AND own 2 of them with best mates, possibly a little bit narrow minded (staying was the easy option) and certainly fulfilling one of my strongest qualities of being SERIOUSLY stubborn... (I said no and I want what I want..).
As I started to think outside my box I realised what an opportunity this was for the kids to see and actually live another country, an experience not many get the chance to do.
I took a little ego check and confirmed to myself what I already knew, that my businesses were already taking up so much of my time that the kids were missing out and they certainly were not yielding an appropriate wage for myself given the time I spent on them.
I also took the time to think about the future and what made sense for us as a family, not just me, or just the kids, or just Marcus for that matter.. ALL of us.
Marcus and I were both working ridiculous hours and were shattered all weekend in between still working and if we could move to the U.S for a few years and have me not work at all and still be ok budget wise then what the hell was stopping us?
The best thing about our final decision to go was that there was no desperate search for a better life. We loved what we had in Sydney, so this was simply an adventure, an experience to share as a family and an opportunity for us all to get more time together which was something we hadn't managed for at least 2 years prior.
Yes we would miss friends and family but it is only temporary and heck we moved away from the lions share of them 16 years beforehand when we came from the U.K so we know what it is like to do it alone and we knew we could do it again.
So that was that, a decision was made. Marcus put his name in the ring for the U.S job and when he won it we had 6 weeks from signing the contract to when we needed to be in San Francisco.
I will write another post about how to organise, de clutter and pack up a house like a boss another day as it would be seriously useful for anyone moving, even if just locally.
I will also write another one with tips for anyone moving to the U.S as I have some fab shortcuts and networks on line I had never heard about until I got here and they would have been useful even before I landed rather than 2 weeks later when I finally found them!.
So anyway.. that is HOW.. and now I am here.. well its awesome so far.. again another honest post with the highs and lows to come but all in all the place is amazing and the experience is a positive one.
Have you moved countries?
Did you love it?
Did you go back?