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Finding my new role as... MUM

Moving from the UK to Australia was a big thing but I did it at a young age, with no kids and not really any major belongings.

My boyfriend and I at the time (now my husband), owned a flat in London but we rented that and just came with suitcases. We shipped about 4 packing boxes and post Scotland Yard Interview where we were informed those were absolutely gone for good we basically had sweet F.A.

Shocking start, YES, Pressure to make it work, ZERO.

Roll on 16 years and it is 2016. I am married, have 2 kids that love our life where we are, a dog a gorgeous house and some amazing friends. My brother that I have been apart from for 16 years+ has moved to Australia and is pregnant (well his fiance is) AND I run a very successful business with another growing rapidly beside it.

Not to blow my own trumpet but I was good at what I did work wise and not only had lots of people come to me for mentoring but I also spoke at multiple business events on the subject. To my close friends I was the person they know they can lean on. 

Why tell you all this? Both of those qualities were things I treasured and got a huge buzz from in sharing with others. They made me feel of value and service to the world around me.. Not to mention that bringing in money to the bank account I share with my husband was something I was proud about.

So what happens when your husband wants to move to the U.S for a new adventure? Well that story is here but this blog post is about my story after that move..

I sold my business and overnight became 'JUST' Mum or should I say MOM..

Not only was I adjusting to life in a new country but I suddenly didn't work. I had never had home help, family around or even a regular cleaner during my working days so the house keeping was nothing new but not working was ABSOLUTELY out of my comfort zone.

I struggled, there was no validation of my value in being asked to lecture to others on a subject. 
I had no one asking for advice as I knew more than them. 
I suddenly knew why I had lost one of my girlfriends friendships back in the day. 
I felt insignificant.
I felt like a groundhog day slave.

It is one year later now and I LOVE my role as 'Mum'. I have new value and feel more of worth that EVER before.

I slowly brought structure back into my day and created work goals within my new job. 

I had a couple of new people to answer too.. I was still my own boss but I needed to be of service to a new group of people or events

My kids and husbands wellbeing, our dog's exercise, my children's personal growth, the ability to volunteer at school, enabling extra curricular activities and lastly my own passion for fitness.

I went back to my calendar and created a schedule just like I had at work. I gave myself structure and I started to focus on the amazing things I now had time to do that I didn't when I was working.

The simplest of things now give me the buzz I used to get from mentoring and lecturing alongside running a business.

Being able to explain things calmly until my little guys get the importance instead of being frustrated and just glossing over the subject with 'oh whatever' as I don't have time. I am working on them from the inside out..

Taking them to sports and actually watching.. then hiking with the kids and their dog after school instead of having them IN after school care and seeing the happiness it creates in those little faces.

Researching Plant Powered eating and taking our diet to new levels where we can count on one hand how many take aways we have had since. Where we are all leaner, stronger and more knowledgable.

I realise now what value I have found in being a Mum and JUST a Mum, how much pride I take in nourishing my family with food that prolongs their future and has them all looking and feeling better than ever.. I used to place my value on what I was adding to the bank account but now I see another world and I kinda love it!!

Have you made the transition? One way or the other? How did you go with it? 

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